Coping Mechanisms

Well here we go… not everything works for everyone. Like my journey, I dropped everything and fell in love with Allah. That might not work for you.

Everything we do is different. What you like I may dislike.

My first bit of advice is to figure out what YOU want. This could be anything your life that you’ve been seeking for a while. Find it, hold it and keep it. The littlest thing you can find could give you a major change of emotions.

My second is to ALWAYS distract yourself. Often we find ourselves drowning in our thoughts when we are laying in our beds or sat doing absolutely nothing whilst staring at the ceiling.

You need to keep your mind running like a game, you don’t let it stop. But the key to this is not to think about the past or people. It’s about you. Your future. Explore you mind and figure what you like.

When you’re laying or sitting or walking always distract yourself when you feel a sad wave coming along. I tend to remind myself why I am where I am and then end the topic between my mind but that isn’t all the time. On other occasions I’d overthink about why I allow myself to feel such a way but it’s human so I let it be.

Another key coping mechanism I’ve adapted into is knowing that my emotions are valid. I cannot cut them off and throw them far away, even though I want to. I have to be okay with having them. Sometimes you have to allow yourself to be sad. You have to cry, you have to find an outlet for your pain but that never is self-harm. I cry and let things go. This may seem excessive but every other day I breakdown so my sadness doesn’t build up and my feelings aren’t hurt. I allow myself to move on after my breakdown but the key thing about crying is letting go and acknowledging that my sadness and constant urges are within the moment of temporary.

Another coping mechanism I use is praying. Yes, it sounds basic. Yes you may believe it does nothing or you feel it hadn’t “worked for me” but I assure you. I was you at one point. I dropped my faith and forgot my Lord existed. We push and push and finally, we see a change within our faith. Please do not make it too late and pray. I promise you as a survivor this is my BIGGEST coping mechanism. You need to turn to God. As much as you don’t like it or feel like it does “nothing.” It is the answer to all your emotions. The homely feeling you are looking for in other people is in Him. Our Almighty. The love you want to feel is in Him. I promise.

Please do not give up. You started for a reason. Whatever reason it was; I believe in you.

You will make it to where you want. From this bottom of the mountain right to the perk of where we all want to be.

I promise you, we will be okay.

Together, whoever you are. We will do this. You will make it and the anxiety or depression or whatever you have will not take over again. You will be in charge of your thoughts.

I love you. Whoever you are, my doors are always open. The help you need is here and for my survivors who constantly feel the urge like me… We all started for a reason and it wasn’t to stop.